Emotional Stability

This is a subject on managing your emotions. I was with a lady yesterday who tried to convince me it couldn't be done! I'm here to tell you, it can!!!! Get your cup of coffee and take some time to digest what I have to say:

God created us with emotions so that we might be able to enjoy Him and His creation. Often we have been tempted to consider our feelings as a bother, a hindrance to living a life of faith. I believe God gave us emotions so that we might live a well-balanced and wholesome life. After all, God Himself is an emotional being who expressed anger, pleasure, and compassion. Our goal, then, ought not to be to support our emotions, but rather to achieve emotional wholeness through finding God's answers to our emotional needs. Take for instance the emotion of sorrow. A loss.....we have to learn to COPE. So many women have the impression that their emotions are an embarrassment...an unwanted appendage.

We can benefit from negative emotions. Husbands have often developed insensitivity toward their wives by simply repeating what they have heard in church - that your feelings should be rejected. YET THOSE FEELINGS ARE IMPORTANT. They are a part of our total being.

I've known angry people who deny their anger; they are unable to admit such feelings. Others deny hostility, bitterness, or sorrow, thinking that Christians should not have such feelings; they insist that they are free from them. The result is that deep feelings often smolder beneath the surface of their personalities. I am convinced that emotional wholeness cannot be achieved through denying the deep emotions that we all have. (Including men and women!!!)

There is a drug for virtually every physical pain, every emotional disturbance. If you feel down, take "uppers," if you're emotionally excitable, take "downers"...but at all costs, feel good!!! Society dictates....if you have a sexual urge, fulfill it, if you have anger, express it, if you feel tied down, walk away from your responsibilities. At any rate, it's your life and you're number one, so do as you please.

The biblical balance would be to admit to ourselves and to God how we feel (someetimes we should admit our feelings to others too) and ask ourselves: Why do I feel the way I do? The past must be forgiven by God and we must be cleansed from its influence.

Joy is an emotional stability for me - it comes as a result of Christ rule instead of self-rule (in other words Christ is completely in charge) ....Galatians 5:22-23 - these are qualities that the Holy Spirit wants to form in us AS WE OBEY GOD'S WORD. Christ obeyed as He went to the Cross although He (in the flesh) did not want to. He obeyed though He didn't feel like it; the feelings came later. We can't expect a life without emotional turbulence, but there can be emotional healing; as the Spirit can work even amid our ups and downs. God wans us to manage our emotions. He's assured us that they need not manage us.

I've seen a lot of women who get stuck on the angry emotion and they don't think anyone can see it....I'll blog on that tomorrow....like a teapot....starts boiling slowly and ends up really boiling and they are stuck in the "I don't want to talk about it" mode.....a good ole communication of venting would be most helpful....because I believe it just festers and makes anyone around that person miserable. Wear the "joy" emotion just one day and I mean really wear it with your attitude and you will see a change and love it!!!! Have a joyful Friday!!!
Remember: Women are emotional and men are "fixers." Embrace emotional stability....yea and be thankful....who wants to be a dull, almost statue lady who shows ZERO emotional and no one wants to be around that person!!!! I know I won't ever be that dull!!!!

What Would You Call A Friend?

I would say a friend is someone who keeps in touch and reciprocates -- for instance, instead of you having to contact them, they contact you to see how it is and basically cares.

Truthful

Trustworthy

Happy for your answers to prayer!!!!

Real; not phoney

Encouraging

Friends sharpen the mind of each other.

What amazes me; I have well over one hundred people who want to be my friend on Facebook, but I never hear from them. That concerns me.

Prov. 27:17 says Iron sharpens iron....friends sharpen each other and are happy for great things that happen to them.

Have a blessed Thursday -- God has blessed me to give the encouragement I need to give and I know I will have a blessed day! I'm up early because a friend invited me to an early breakfast....now that's a friend, knowing I dearly love mornings and usually get up at the crack of dawn! : )

Grab Hold Of Your Destiny!

God redeemed us for a reason. He redeemed you for a purpose. He redeemed you so you can fulfill the assignment for your life. God sees you as useful. He has a mission for you to accomplish!

He designed you from start to finish. Even before anybody else accepted you, He accepted you.

Even before anybody else loved you, He loved you!

Grab hold....'cause He won't let go!!! Yea!! Enjoy your Wednesday!

Audit Your Priorities

I purposely got up early to read a story about a Pastor's wife who is getting married very soon. She is charming! She was married to a fabulous Pastor and has six kids! Her husband and 13 year old son were killed in a plane crash. And now she has met Mr. Right who was a single Pastor (never married) and they are tieing the knot soon. They make a lovely couple and with the three teenage girls and two boys left for him to "father" - he is super excited. And the way they found each other is over texting and a cup of Starbuck's. That is so cool! She was talking about it's been a bittersweet romance because with five kids left, she has given so much of herself that she can give! And she felt like sooner or later someone was going the "crumbs" instead of a "piece of pie."

My comments after reading her story, set realistic expectations for yourself. Know what you can do and know how much you can do. I love inspiring stories. I will definitely audit my priorities and slow down enough to catch up on reading. It is a great feeling - feeding one's soul!

See God For Who God Is

The more you see who God is the more you see who He is to you!

The more y ou see who God is to you, the more you see how valuable you are to Him!

I see God as being all powerful, all-wise, all-loving, and eternal.

I also see Him as my rock among the shifting sands of life.

Also, as a balm of Gilead in the midst of any sickness.

Most of all, as my provider in the midst of my lack!

We all need to see Him as ETERNAL and UNCHANGING in the midst of all of our busy lives! Do not be afraid. He will never leave you nor forsake you!

Dominant Thoughts

Naturally our dominant thoughts as a Mom go towards our kids, grandkids, all their animals, our animals, (including fishies), our family members (all inclusive), our previos church attendeees, friends, and all other people we think of. At the same time God cares a great deal about how we think! ....and what our dominant thoughts are! That's why in the Bible he says, "Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus." Phil 2:5.

Let your thoughts reflect Christ and others.

Let His attitudes become your attitudes and live like you are a Christian.

Let Him confirm your actions.

And I think of love and forgiveness. (My favorite subjects.) Go ahead....love your adorable hubby and show him that you are there for him and will stand by him!!! woohoo!!! Those are terrific dominant thoughts!

Why Do I Blog?

Because I love to give encouragement of simple suggesions that can take your life from fairly functional to simply sensational!

I have blog-itis when I go a couple of days and won't be around a 'puter to blog. So, I'm back and have a super wonderful weekend and enjoy this beautiful time of the year! Ooooo I love those two words "simple sensational!" Life's too short to carry around extra baggage....I know you get the picture! See ya.

Thanks, thanks, and more thanks!!!!

This post is dedicated to grateful hearts for your comments to either my texting or blog. As I sit here so very early in the morning and probably the only one in this neighborhood that is up at this beautiful hour, I think about the caring people and y'all are the ones. I know the "jet set" (that's wannabe brilliant executives) and have entrepreneur spirits comment because I know you are out there in the working world and that's what y'all want to hear! So, with that, and with some encouraging thoughts I have today, I shall continue. So, I appreciate your comment, Geneva. Short and sweet, but needed.

What's on my mind today?.....encouragement if you are planning on getting a new look. Yesterday one of my friends who manages the Clinique counter gave me a makeover, so now I have a bronze color blusher that makes me look like I'm 34 again! She showed me how to put it on and honestly it looks like I just got back from getting a tan in Hawaii!!! My hubby was esthatic about my looks. Because I also had my hair spiked a on the sides and back and that looked oh so awesome. It would surprise most people, but my hubby loves my hair looking funky and the new look gave me a new outlook on life! Have you ever felt bedraggled and felt like you needed a new something?????? Well, I had a coupon for a "free haircut" at Regis that I had forgotten that I had..........so away I went. If I can ever figure out how to put the pic of my new looks I will.

And thanks to our son and daughter who encourage us to have a fun retirement. Their wonderful words of encouragements come at a super great time and are needed because we have been stuck in a rut! And now we are starting to do something different than just the ordinary mundate day to day routines. And....replenishing what has been used up, receiving back what has been spent, and refreshing what has grown stale. God definitely designed us to have rhythm in our lives and be totally devoted to life's restorations. These are my praises for this day. Enjoy your's!!!!

Take Personal Responsibility For Your Own Behavior

Get honest with yourself and take responsibility for your life: "I did it. I was wrong. I messed up." Rebelling against God for it? Ask for forgiveness. I believe we must LOVE and FORGIVE. I John 1:9....it says it right in the Bible!

There's no sin beyond the boundaries of God's faithfulness to FORGIVE.

Don't carry around all that guilt. It's not worth it! Happy Wednesday!

Managing Our Lives

I think we must manager our time, which means our schedules. We need to take a look at each day and say, "There are only so many hours. How can I use them best to pursue the priorities I have set?"

We must manage our energy. Some tasks and relationships take more energy - physical, emotional, and spiritual - than others.

We must manage our creativity. We must focus it for the great impact and effectiveness.

Lately I've run into some "mean" women. Why be mean? It's so unnecessary! I've noticed I say something to them that is encouraging and there's a mean comment like "Well, they did it to themselves." Or "She's so stupid about everything she does." That grieves my spirit. It will drain your energy. Manage your life to be around those that encourage or uplift! Have a super Tuesday! I know I am going to!

Associate With People Who Will Encourage You

Put some distance between yourself and those who speak discouragement into your life.

Proverbs 17:17 says "A friend loves at all times."

A true friend will not despise your weakness, but will believe for your strength.

A true friend will ENCOURAGE you. I have quite a few. Amen on that one!

Who Can Wipe A Tear That Does Not Fall?

The expression of pain is part of the grieving process every person needs to go through after he or she has been hurt or suffered a loss. Grieving is vital to our coming to closure. Grieving is part of the healing process anytime we have lost something precious to us.

The lost may have been the loss of a loved one or a devout friend.

The loss may have been the loss of innocence.

The loss of a Church.

The loss may have been a lost of self-worth, or dignity.

A person who suffers any kind of loss needs to grieve.

Find a friend who you can confide in and share your grieve and the tears will fall. I promise you.

Emotional Support

Now this is an interesting subject!

What happens when a couple learns to see their marriage through God's eyes? Deepened feelings, improved communications and a dynamic change in day-to-day interactions!

Love is for a lifetime....the good bad and and the ugly! Gen. 2:24 tells us that it is God's plan for a man to be joined as "one flesh." How sweet is this "presence" of mind when you really dwell on it. I constantly help women who say "He just does not understand me...he goes his separate way and I go mine." To me that's "Roommate living." That's the way I lived in dorm life in College. Try the one flesh and as the world puts it "be on the same page." It's tough getting there, but at least try.

Walk In Your God Given Purpose!

Great songs ...... great books......great Sermons........great businesses....great acts of love and kindness.....great deeds of heroism!!!!!!

Dreams come to pass when we work our dreams and our potential, when we step out and challenge life and take on the possibilities that He has before us. If we are just sitting around thinking about or talking about our dreams and our potential, we willnever move into our destiny - we will accomplish nothing and our dreams and our potential will go to the grave with us. Don't wait too late....walk in the purpose God has for you! If you need to be healed, call for prayer! Don't wait too late!

I hope the above is encouraging words to you. Don't be a should have, should of, wish I would of person!

What God Says Will Be, Will Be

Persevere in prayer, God will answer you.

That answer may come as you read God's Word or you hear a sermon...or it may come from the still, small voice of God speaking in your heart. The answer may come into your mind and heart in a flash, or it may come to you slowly over time,but the answer will come.

God hears and God answers. When you call upon Him, He will answer you.

I was praying for sisters to reunite and it happened! I also was praying to get this computer up and running on internet.....after eighteen days, it finally happened! Another answer to prayer; to get started on writing for the book I am authoring...that happened! How about you? What are your "God says will be, will be?" We serve a great God!!! Amen on that one!!! Enjoy your Thursday talking to God in prayer!

Cut Unhealthy Relationships Out of Your Life

The hardest thing to do....but oh, so necessary!

Never lose your identity for another person's sake. A healthy relationship is one in which there is balance. There is give and take and there is mutual appreciation and a building up of each other. It is one in which honest words of appreciation are exchanged without any hint of manipulation!

Trust God to give you the courage to end the relationship, and then trust Him to give you broad enought shoulders and thick enough skin to take criticism that you face for ending the relationship.

Say to yourself "All of my relationships are pleasing to God."

Last night I met with W.O.W Women of Worth ladies -- we've had longstanding times...these are women I can trust and are on my same page......thanks ladies...you are awesome!!!!! Love, Prayers, and Happiness today!

Letting others define you

Accept only what God says about you, and the words of those who allign themselves with His proclamation over your life!

I already have family members that define me as less blessed, less effective, less intelligent, less spiritual than God wants me to be. I will not let them define me and limit me! I know who I am in Christ!

I think they have. Issues with jealousy when they downplay or think they will succeed in limiting me. No way!

Whoa......stay cool!

The hot days of summer have been fast upon us!!!

Stay cool; don't get grumpy!!!

Drink lots of water!!!!!

I finally got my Mexican heather plants planted & petunias!!!!!! They are gorgeous & REAL!!!!

Yea.......night night -stay cool!!

I can only imagine

A blog on IPhone.....it might pick up one day and not the next...very annoying!

Ask God for big things.....

Believe God for big things!!!!

Pursue what God has for you.

Trust God.

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...is what empowers you to obtain all that God has promised you!!!!!

Enjoy your Friday!

Embrace Your Distinctiveness

That is where you will find your value.

You are the Designer's (our precious Lord's) original!!

You are not a cheap imitation of someone else. You are not a copy.

You have your own specific physical identity--- have great self esteem!

Psalms says.......we are fearfully and wonderfully made!!!

Spend some time rejoicing over that!!!! Embrace that! You
are beautiful! You really are!

Those who care

And you're one of them if you let me know you got my blog......Google cares.......I connected them @ 4-ish AM. ; (
and they fixed it!!!!!

Oh how I love my blog and u that read it!!!!! More encouraging words tomorrow!!!!!

Yea------woo hoooo!!!

Thanks so much!!!!

Our computers are out. Thanks for your patience. Here's an Encouraging thoughts;
Always keep moving towards what God has for you!
Because God will start a great thing in you and finish it! Let him do it! Prov. 3:5
I may not be able to comment back asap, but keep your's coming! I love your feelings and wisdom!
I'm posting on an 3G IPhone!!!!! Woohooo!

Patience please..........

Your Uniqueness Makes You Special

ACKNOWLEDGE the gifts God has given you.

God chose all the attributes for your life, and He knew where to put you, with whom to put you, and how to place you in time and space so that He might raise you up to be unique of His love and power to this world.

People who don't know that theya re God's workmanship often spend a very long time trying to be something they were not created to be. They try to change their appearance and their talents. They try to bypass their culture of their ethnicity or their gender.

God made you and He made you "wonderfully." (Ps. 139:14) My uniqueness is that I love to connect and encourage. In any way.....whether it be by a creative card which I create "Carol's Creative Cards" or via a compliment. We all need compliments; kids are starving for attention, teens are wanting SOMEONE to understand them, and women just want to feel unique and be on the same page as their hubby or have a peaceful atmosphere with their adorable children!

Right now acknowledge what your special uniqueness is. Another one of my uniqueness is I am a fantastic Grandma.....hip, hip, hooray and I see it in our grandkids eyes that light up when they get up in the morning while they are at our home, so glad to see me! They are so precious! In fact, all of us are precious! Wear that on forever!!!!!

What is your uniqueness and gifts? I'd love to have you share them! Have a happy Wednesday!