Do not create a smothering love - it will only put out the flame.
Understanding:
It has been said there are two kinds of men who do not understand women - bachelors and husbands. Often your in-law will be won when they realize you understand when no one else does. It is better to put a strong fence at the top of a cliff than an ambulance down below. Understanding can become a strong fence.
Communication:
Proverbs 15:11 - "A soft answer turneth away wrath."
Remember you do not know all of the troubles a person experiences unless you are walking in their shoes. We have to keep a meek and quiet spirit. Hold our mouth shut if we have to.
I'm going to stop right there. When I say learn to love from afar. Let God remove you from a, what I call, "a knock-down drag out." Anger is running rampent! You will regret it ladies, if you start a major fight or he does and you strike each other or throw something at each other. Just do not start a ruckus. You know you love him and he loves you, but keep a meek and quiet spirit. Scripture: I Peter 3:4 & I Thessalonians 4:11: I Peter 3:4 - goes for man or woman. Honestly, I've seen women say things to their husband that wouldn't even be good to say to anyone, let alone the hubby! What are you going to do? Are you going to love from afar?
....to be continued......
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This is what i'm learning right now, as Shawn and I try to work things out. He's in St. Louis and i'm in Michigan City. Its learning that i don't have to be right or always have the last word. Learning that once the words are said, they are forever imprinted on the relationship, good or bad, and mostly its just not worth it to be right at your hub's expense.
Thank you sooo much for your amazing wisdom and encouragement. I love you, sweet sister!
Pamela
Pamela:
Excellent thing to do "not worth it to be right at your hub's expense." There have been times when I had the last word and times when he has had the last word. It got us nowhere. But, it did even itself out, when we stopped "trying" to get the last word in. The hug afterwards is soooo better. So, the next day's blog says "have a meek and quiet spirit." Pamela, I believe it pays to love him enough to let him think it was his idea. There are so many rewards for that! Our home is our refuge. I love you dearly and wonderfully, Pamela. Thank you so much for your comment! I needed it THIS day!
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